Message In Stanza

Poetry and Musings

Here is a post from before. I hope you enjoy!

Life is like a firework ready to burst with excitement. The grand finale is ready for you. It’s not just end of a life but the end of a huge accomplishment, whether it be graduation, the birth of a child, etc. But keep in mind, losing your teeth, standing up to a bully, etc. are just as big as the life events. Everything is merely a life event. It depends on how you define importance for your life.

I remember the first time I learned to play guitar chords in sequence with flow. Learning the A, D and E (and a few other basic chords) chord meant that I could play Beatles’ “Eight Days a Week.” I played it for my aunt and uncle from another state when they came to visit. My voice was still flat and the strings were muted by my fingers at times, but afterwards they commented and said, “Wow, you have improved. I recognized that and like that song.” Their encouragement helped me realize that I progresssed from only playing chords to the chords turning into songs. This motivated me to hone in on my skill.

You can see how words of affirmation could really lift up someone’s spirits. Have you had parents, friends and teachers who have encouraged you? Can’t you see the difference it makes?

James Clear of Huff Post wrote, “Periods of positive emotion and unhindered exploration are when you see the possibilities for how your past experiences fit into your future life, when you begin to develop skills that blossom into useful talents later on, and when you spark the urge for further exploration and adventure.” (Source: https://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/3512202).

Positive words spoken over someone’s life could keep an under-privileged kid in high school. It could give the courage to take marriage counseling to a failing relationship. It could bring a smile to a baby on a mother’s lap. It could do all this and much more.

But I wouldn’t take it lightly how careful we need to be with our words. Don’t motivate someone else if you don’t care how it’s received. Especially, if it’s just to make yourself feel better. People can definitely read through that. We all do this at times. It’s just a word of caution. And sometimes listen and don’t chime in when someone just wants to vent. Read the cues and situation well. And if can’t pick up on the nonverbal signals because it’s through text ask more questions like, “Would you like advice or just someone to listen?” This can make a person feel more at ease and make the conversation flow more easily.

I used to think written dialogues (texts, emails, etc.) were a hindrance from people moving forward as a society. While I’d rather be in person with someone and see their facial expressions I find texting an outlet to more communication. After a fun event I may receive a text that reads, “That was a lot of fun. Thanks for inviting me.”
And back in the day when landlines were more prevalent I don’t think many people would call someone up for a short conversation saying how they enjoyed my party. These words of gratitude have increased since texting.

So what is your adventure? What is one you thing you would like to do if you had all the encouragement in the world? I will give you the “go ahead and do it” words now. “Go for it.” 🙂

 

5 thoughts on “The Benefits of Encouragement

  1. Auroraboros says:

    Great message here… I particularly like the part about not always seeking to speak but being willing to listen. Encouragement can sometimes mean much more in action (or lack thereof) than in words…

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    1. I completely agree. Listening is just as important as talking. And encouragement is indeed represented through action. Thanks for sharing your thoughts with me. 😀

      Liked by 1 person

  2. Sadje says:

    A really wise word of advice. Great and thanks.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Carly says:

      Thank you so much. 🙂 A lot of your comments have been going to spam and I don’t know why. I apologize. 😦

      Liked by 1 person

      1. Sadje says:

        It happens to me too. No worries.

        Liked by 1 person

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